THE COMING OUT TALK DUN DUN DUNNNN

[emothy]

OMG I just had the coming out conversation with my mum.

Or as we're referring to it now, the "half coming out" conversation. She doesn't understand, and says so quite plainly, but she's trying. That's all I care about. And she's not going to tell anyone, and let them come to me and ask, if they ever do.

Thursday evening Carrie came round after work and we were on the sofa watching TV after we'd eaten and she had her arm round me (you know, on the back of the sofa then it just "slips" down round the shoulders - most cliche move EVER and I told her so too) and my parents were out. We heard the door go so we sprang apart, but mum says now that her and dad saw us and she made the noise to warn us before her friend Lin and her daughter Suzie saw us and caused a big confusion thing.

Apparently my dad was more okay with it initially than she was. His reaction was, "well... at least she's not a guy." (meaning that it's worse for guys to be gay than girls but whatever), but mum was telling me she really had trouble with the whole "is she isn't she" wondering before talking to me about it. And she keeps saying "so there's still a CHANCE for grandchildren then!" like it's some big deal. Pffft, kids.

All in all, considering that's the only time I'm going to have that talk with my parents in this lifetime, I guess it went okay. I mean, no-one hates me. And I assured mum nothing's going on with me and Carrie right now. She warned me about older girls ;) I think I'm WELL aware dude. Well aware.

Eh so yeah I guess I'll just have to keep an eye out at work now, see if anyone is going to say anything to me coz mum reckons all this "hanging around with Carrie" I'm doing, and the fact she's a great big tomboyish lesbian stereotype, is going to get me branded by association.

We'll see.

Comments

[lilie-the-mouse.livejournal.com]

so there's still a CHANCE for grandchildren then!

Just like my mother *shakes head and smiles*

[emothy]

And my mum doesn't even like kids half the time, honestly! It's like if you want one hanging around so bad, go adopt one :/

[lilie-the-mouse.livejournal.com]

Ah well, in the end there's a huge difference between other people's kids and your own/your own grandchildren.
That's what I say myself, kick kids off the planet. Except my own!!!! :P

[emothy]

I won't ever get that part, because I don't want kids at all. The difference is that my OWN would be even scarier than other people's! Because I'd be responsible for them and having to teach them everything, and watch them get hurt time and time again by life and other people.

...I just don't think I'll ever want to go through it, whether I end up with a guy or not :/

[emothy]

Yeah, I know I'm pretty lucky, it was just so surreal. Especially the words "your dad and I saw you." because I was waiting to hear he'd disowned me or something. I think when it comes down to it, I do hate him more than he hates me.

It was a big relief though afterwards, Carrie called after I texted her about it, and she said, "but don't you feel relieved now?" and I realised I really kind of do. Like after I first told my friends, except I'm not purposely going to sit and talk about girls with my parents now am I. *would shoot self first*

[inkquillandhope.livejournal.com]

Parents are weird about Grandkids...They can really be annoyed by kids easily, but it's like..when it comes to their own flesh & blood grandchildren...they get giddy.

My mom won't give me my disney movies that are downstairs in her movie collection because she says she has to save them for grandchildren. I swear, ...it drives me batty considering I'm the older of 2 siblings..my brother is only 15... and I don't plan on kids just yet...so it's like "damn it, give me my movies!"
but ..ahem..I'm getting sidetracked. I'm glad you're "half coming out" conversation went well. Good for you and I'm glad for you that your parents are making the attempt to accept things rather than fight them. *hugs*

[emothy]

Well I don't get it at all, because my mum never seemed that bothered about it at all, other babies never made her broody for herself or for grandkids, and then out of the blue one day (probably when I turned old enough) she started mentioning grandkids. And I've always told her I didn't want kids anyway! Ewwwww. Nothing to do with my sexual preference at all, just because I can't handle kids!

You need to sneak in during the night and steal those movies sometime ;)

[ithilmenel.livejournal.com]

Oh yes, the whole grandchildren part... *shakes head* This is why I've always been telling my mum that I don't want kids. My dad's completely different though, hence me not telling him anything.

I'm so glad that things went well with your parents, hon, I think they took it well. And I think they'll continue to become increasingly ok with it. Seeing as how they took it initially I really think it can only get even better.

:-*

[vacivity.livejournal.com]

Oh wow. Well, it was something that needed to be done, so yay for that! I hope they don't say anything to you about hanging out with Carrie and don't start hating you. :*